Naively I assumed that I could just contact the adoption services to retrieve the files relating to my mums adoption and viola we would have access to her family heritage.
How wrong was I?
The year she was adopted determines the process in which she can have access to her records. Pre 1975 means that you have to undergo counselling for a number of sessions.
The rationale is to support the person on unlocking their history whilst navigating the many emotions and possible trauma they may encounter along the process.
This was a big conversation for my mum and I as it is her history and whilst I am very curious to know I need to respect her thoughts and feelings regarding this. Which were and still are very complex emotions and until she is ready to ‘open that can of worms’ it will be shelved until she is ready for that journey.
For me, I was super curious and of course I still am. But I was at a cross roads. The only thing I could do at that time was think about my own pathway and how I could find out more about my heritage.
Ancestry.com seemed the obvious answer but without vital information it is impossible to track anything.
What was left? DNA testing. There is a kit where you can find out about your heritage via saliva analysis. Brilliant I thought, so off the sample went to the lab and I waited in anticipation for the results.